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Exploring possibilities of a better way of being builds up the new ways of being creating momentum and the  excitement within relationships. The Momentum of creating events of life experience builds a wanting to be  together rather than having to be together. Initially in a  new relationship we tend  to have a  tunnel  focus, primarily  due to the  chemistry of  love fermions  known as Romantic love  which is a basic drive that has evolved for the purposes of mating and reproduction ( Helen Fisher, Ph.D).  During  the early phases of  relationships of bonding, the focus is  intense  on each others  love interest and everything that occurs between  them . And at the same time having doubts when  expectations are not met  with  mixed messages in our communication that begins to emerge resulting in emotions in a roller coaster of events. It is only when we stop and take our relationships for granted that  we find that problems start  to emerge.  In  everyday life and in  various  situations  our needs within  a relationship changes as life is a constant reminder that things never  stay the same.

The many demands of  managing work, financial stress, dealing with people and issues often may blur boundaries in what decisions we make or not make.  In fact  for many people to cope or manage situations they do the best they know within themselves and  often without someone to challenge them - if that was the right way to do it or not. Eventually patterns begin to emerge reflecting our coping styles.


Coping Styles - So for some people  they use a coping style  by avoidance thinking  - that is the problem will go away if one does nothing.  The other is Ruminative style ( Ruminator)-  this is conversation  - going in circles - talking  about things on the same topic around, around and around thus preventing taking any sort of action. We all know of someone that talks and talks about the same thing over and over and over thinking too much and too deeply. Ruminators often don't release their thinking issue - in that they have difficulty in knowing how to take action. By ruminating  they believe they are searching for answers  and are seeking  usually for someone to listen - however no action is taken . For these people life does not move on they feel stuck quite often on  issues of the past. For some  people  they need strategies to  manage situation  - learning to take action  and learning to define personal boundaries thereby  building up momentum for future possibilities. For some -  Hypnotherapy encourages and benefits clearer thinking and behavioral flexibility and emotional self regulation thereby building momentum in moving forwards

Individual therapy through relationship sessions  using  solution focus therapy or group sessions  is recommended  to introduce skills in managing situations .  By Untangling the clutter in your mind then allow you to make clearer choice in your life. For some, individual therapy is a vehicle  for an individual to be heard. At least half the people seeking help for depression are also suffering marital distress and at least half the couples seeking marital therapy have at least  one depressed partner ( Michael Yapko).

Depression signs and symptoms  information - see self help material section   http://www.yapko.com
Depression article: overcoming Depression- Michael Yapko : Skills or Pills

Solution Focus Therapy or Possibility Therapy  focuses on ‘what can be done’  building possibilities -   building on your strengths rather than on weaknesses.Bringing together what works rather than what does not. It about making connections with someone close to you. Its about having a reality check up as sometimes ones problem  seems so big because our expectations or the perception of the expectation is unreasonable  So ask yourself are your expectations realistic?

Solution Focused Therapy or possibility Therapy is a 'here and now' type of psychotherapy that places emphasis on the present and future. Rather than analysing problems, the focus is to engage in conversation about  the possibility of solutions, operating from the viewpoint that  the solution  to an issue or problem can be viewed from a different perspective ( different view - another ways of  seeing things ) making it clearer and manageable focusing  from a  positive approach to psychotherapy. Solution Focused Therapy is part of the Systems therapy approach.  Solution Focus Therapists encourage the client to talk about the possibility of  solutions. The belief is that spending too much time thinking about  problems contributes to  the problem - thus distracting the client from formulating solutions to their problem(s). An other way to explain this is that the deeper you dig and look for problems the more problems you find.

What area is Solution Focus Therapy or Possibility Therapy used for?
Solution focused brief therapy can be used for a variety of problems such as anxiety, depression and relationship problems.  solution  focus therapy or  Possibility Therapy  assists to help clients to gain more self-awareness when experiencing difficult life transitions.  Bill O'Hanlon has a very clear and comprehensive way of  describing Possibility Solution Focus Therapy  and further information can be found on his website  "What is Possibility Therapy? "  Possibility Therapy FAQs   Bill O'Hanlon  developed "his own method, the Solution-Oriented Approach, a brief approach using strengths to reach goals and overcome challenges. It has been applied with individuals, couples, families and organizations."

Within Momentum Relationship Therapy both individual and group education sessions and Individual therapy is provided

Overview

Individual  Counselling /Therapy: 
Cost $120 per hour - First session usually 90 min  -no extra charge if session exceeds one hour
Number of session depends on issues  usually  1-6 sessions 60mins per session if longer time per session required no extra charge
Psychotherapy  Solution  Focus Counselling  depends on clients progression, issues and support needed
Home visits for clients who are unable to attend office - price varies depending on travel            

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